Since going Paleo my family has fallen even more in love with our grill. Paleo and grilling just work well together. The past couple of years I've even been stepping outside my grilling comfort zone more and more. Grilling things I'd never thought to have grilled before and trying new flavor combinations. I have to say I'm pretty thrilled with the results of most of my flavor experiments. In the past I'd never have thought to grill fruit, but it's amazing. Grilling fruit and adding it to traditionally savory dishes? Brilliant. Oh yes, and? New rule: every burger recipe for the rest of forever must contain grilled pineapple. OK, maybe more of a guideline. It's a seriously delicious combination though. This Smoky Grilled Pineapple Burger is always a crowd-pleaser at my house. It's not only Paleo, but Whole30, glutenfree, lower carb, and clean eating friendly. I promise you won't miss the bun! paleo, grilled pineapple burger, smoky
I believe that how we handle setbacks is a huge predictor of our success. This holds true in many if not all areas of our lives. In particular I am talking about weight loss, healthy living, and fitness. How we handle setbacks in these areas predicts whether we will succeed, or not.
In the past if I had a setback, I handled it in a few very non-productive ways. If I ate way too much (of what was undoubtedly junk) I might:
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In the past if I had a setback, I handled it in a few very non-productive ways. If I ate way too much (of what was undoubtedly junk) I might:
- Say, oh well, messed up, might as well keep eating for the rest of the day...or the rest of the weekend...or why not the rest of the week. However this often lead to never getting back to making good food choices in proper portions.
- Freak out and decide to not eat for the rest of the day. While it might balance out the calories it is definitely not the healthy way to handle things.
- Make excuses for myself. Oh, I'm tired, I've had a bad day, it's that time of the month, blah blah blah. This also isn't productive. Being honest with myself is so important. While these may be the reasons I feel hungrier, they are no excuse for a double cheeseburger with fries!
- Beat myself up. Yes, being honest with myself is very important, but then beating myself up over that mis-step, that bad choice does nothing but hurt me in the long run.
- Over-exercising to 'make up'. Now, I am talking about eating half a pizza and a brownie and then hopping on the treadmill for 2 hours. This isn't healthy. I believe we need to balance out our little splurges with workouts, but the attitude of punishing myself with exercise to beat off that binge is not productive.
Now, when I make bad choices (because that is what we are doing when we eat too much, don't workout, scarf a greasy heart attack in a sack, we are making that choice) I stop, look at the choice I made, and try to look at my feelings and why I made that choice. Then I simply refocus, make a plan of attack to kick it back in gear, and keep going.
I don't always do it as quickly as I'd like. The last 3 weeks I've eaten more calories than I should. Now, it has been good, healthy food, but too many calories of good healthy food still equals no weight loss. I know that I am hungrier from the new workout I've started so I've allowed it, I've made the choice. The consequence however is no weight loss. But I still have goals and hanging out at this weight forever isn't one of them. So, now I have stepped back and looked at where I can tweak things to nourish my body better and not feel so ravenous while still doing this awesome new workout. Things like upping my protein that I'd let slip a bit and making sure I'm drinking my water something else I've let slip. I've made a plan and moved on towards success.
I think that being honest with ourselves and proactive is the best remedy for a setback. Don't beat yourself up, that is the WORST thing to do, but also, don't just say, meh, oh well. Look honestly at the choices you've made. Look at your feelings and emotions surrounding the choice, try to figure out WHY you made that choice. Then dust yourself off, make a plan of attack, and move on to better choices.
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I love, love this post! I used to be the person who always said that if I blew the diet that day I might as well now eat everything I want and start tomorrow fresh. But sometimes that went on and on and pounds later I could not believe I had done that again!
ReplyDeleteI am still having setbacks, but I am trying to do exactly as you suggest and learn from them. Trying.
It can be hard, it's a process.
ReplyDeleteI think you've got it figured out. It's not real until we've messed up and started in again. Then it's livable, and learned.
ReplyDeleteYup yup.
Such great advice. My husband...who is a naturally thin...no overeating guy...has always said to me..."why do you feel the need to continue eating too much all day because you ate something you didn't think you should at breakfast?" Ummmm....because my brain isn't wired correctly....lol.
ReplyDeleteI've done all those negative things you talked about and am still working on not be a crazy person and looking at my setbacks rationally.
Thanks for the great post :)
I know i've definitely said to myself, i may as well eat whatever i want today and i'll be right back on program tomorrow! Unfortunately sometimes i didn't manage to get back to normal eating for several weeks :(
ReplyDeletePerfect point of view. This is so true. Sure, you might have an off meal. But don't make that an off day, week, month, or year.
ReplyDeleteMy favorite part was the last paragraph. It's so true. We have to look honestly at our actions, our choices, and our goals. And constantly re-evaluate them--what worked three months ago probably won't work now.
I like your reasoning for handling set backs. The next few weeks is going to be hard because of my foot injury. I will try not remember your kind words.
ReplyDeleteAll or nothing, that's me! And so true, how we handle our setbacks is a predictor of our success. Our persistence is a direct indicator of how bad we want an intended result ...
ReplyDeleteI tweeted your request. And I also want to say that when I looked at the date of your post I was startled. I feel like it's still March!
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I totally relate to this!!!
ReplyDeleteI've done ALL FIVE of those things, and I've finally come to terms with it. I just won't even call my "high" days" high any more because seriously, they aren't. I won't feel bad for eating some chocolate. I won't feel guilty. Because that got me nowhere. That got me in this negative vicious cycle of beating myself up, feeling guilty, working out like crazy, then binging, then repeating the whole thing again.
ReplyDeleteYou're right. We shouldn't beat ourselves up. It's the worst thing to do. We need to focus on what we're good at, and keep doing that.
Nice one Kat. Glad you're back from being unplugged!
That is so me, too, in the past anyway. It is a process and we just need to take it a day at a time!
ReplyDeletemy clients uses to laugh when Id say BUTBUT IF YOU FOUND YOUR CAR WITH ONE FLAT TIRE WOULD YOU SLASH THE OTHER 3?? as a parallel (or my own fave if you found your house on fire would you throw on GASOLINE or WATER?!).
ReplyDeleteIt took me eons to not "throw away the day" when Id make an unplanned choice....all a learning process huh?
xo xo
Carla
Seriously, this post came at the EXACT time that I needed it. I just caught up on my google reader today and it happened to be my weigh in day...I definitely needed advice about setbacks. I gave you a shout out on my post: http://bit.ly/9CSZRa
ReplyDeleteI actually feel relieved that I posted about my setback this week. Kind of like a weight off my shoulders!