Since going Paleo my family has fallen even more in love with our grill. Paleo and grilling just work well together. The past couple of years I've even been stepping outside my grilling comfort zone more and more. Grilling things I'd never thought to have grilled before and trying new flavor combinations. I have to say I'm pretty thrilled with the results of most of my flavor experiments. In the past I'd never have thought to grill fruit, but it's amazing. Grilling fruit and adding it to traditionally savory dishes? Brilliant. Oh yes, and? New rule: every burger recipe for the rest of forever must contain grilled pineapple. OK, maybe more of a guideline. It's a seriously delicious combination though. This Smoky Grilled Pineapple Burger is always a crowd-pleaser at my house. It's not only Paleo, but Whole30, glutenfree, lower carb, and clean eating friendly. I promise you won't miss the bun! paleo, grilled pineapple burger, smoky
I have always been insecure. Many people in my life are shocked to hear that, but it's true.
Insecure about my looks, my weight, my writing, my mothering, and most of all how others view me. Lately I have felt like I am really overcoming all that, kicking butt, becoming comfortable in my own skin...but then it sneaks up on me out of nowhere. Someone unfollows me on Twitter, or someone gives me a weird look at the store, or a blog post doesn't get many comments...and I'm that insecure high school girl again. They don't like me, why don't they like me, did I say something, did I do something??? Yikes, it hits my like a sucker punch in the stomach.
And I hate it!
I feel like that insecure girl in those moments, but I am a 33 year old woman who has done and will do much in my life. I have a great life. I have huge goals. I have an awesomely supportive husband, great friends, great kids, a passion for writing, yada yada. The list goes on. So why is it that these little seemingly insignificant things still reduce me to an insecure puddle?
I had one of those moments just now (Tuesday night as I write this)...I then announced on Twitter that I rock. More of a positive affirmation than anything, LOL.
I think we should all remind ourselves of that daily. We are the one and only us, and we rock.
I'm not perfect, but I am pretty great. I obviously don't mean that in a prideful way. I just mean that I try my best in life and shouldn't let someone else's opinions and actions trigger that less-than feeling in myself!
I guess it's still a battle. One thing is certain. Just losing weight doesn't cure it all. Darn.
What makes you feel insecure? How do you deal with that feeling when it comes up?
I totally fake it until I make it. Not a new sentiment but true. I pause and tap BACK into when Ive felt unapologetically myself in OTHER SITUATIONS and drag those feelings back up in that moment.
ReplyDeleteI try and recapture other times when Ive totally thought I was the bees knees (old much? I KNOW :)) & remind myself Im the same person.
and that I rock.
Hmmm...lots makes me insecure. How long have you got?! LOL!
ReplyDeleteI can certainly relate to the instances you mentioned and it's a great idea to remind ourselves every so often that we do, indeed, ROCK :) Love it!
Yeah, I'm one of the most insecure people you'll ever meet. Just ask Trophy Husband. So, I lie and fake it and drink massive amounts of alcohol.
ReplyDeleteJust kidding on the last one. And the first one. But the fake it? That tends to work for me.
Oh I have always felt that way too! And wondered if my low self-esteem was somehow behind my eating issues. (BTW - I'm insecure when thin as well as fat.) How do we retrain ourselves to be more self-confident? Where does that come from?
ReplyDeleteMe, too; all of that. Age does not cure it either, I'll say that.
ReplyDeleteNeed a store called "Self-Confidence "R" Us".
I could cut and copy your post and place it in my blog. That's how I feel too. OMG~I am currently begging my husband to over compliment me to help with my self esteem issues. He is trying but I like the "I ROCK!" idea. smile.
ReplyDeleteJust like Lesia said I could copy and paste this as well. I think we all have the tendancies to be mega insecure and read way to much between the lines.
ReplyDeleteI love that you know you rock because YOU DO!
I'm a fan of faking til you make it. I try to cover it up, and I think I'm successfull for those around me. But I still need to deal with those "ugly betty" moments I still have all the freakin time.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is, that we are great, we are special and we ARE doing this. and by "this" I mean life and living and isn't that what it's all about in the end? You're amazing, just so you know.
I can totally relate to this post. There are times I don't give a crap what someone thinks about me, and other times I turn into a puddle of insecurity. I wish age did cure this... Until then, though, WE ALL ROCK!
ReplyDeleteI totally know what you mean!! I've always been like that. I'm a people-please on top of it all, too. So I'm alway really conscious of how others view me. But in the last few months I've felt myself growing out of that. I do rock! Keep your chin up because you do rock!
ReplyDeleteThanks for posting this, It's good to hear that others struggle with it. We are all in the same boat. Positive self-talk, I need it alot and I've just understood why. It helps so much.
ReplyDeleteWe all rock in our own special way!
I have a lot of insecurities and feel I don't measure up a lot of the time.
ReplyDeleteI was told this a lot as a kids so I'm still try to prove that I matter. I'm getting better but it still creeps in more than I like.
Thanks for admitting it happens even to the best of us. Because we are great!
Girl...
ReplyDeleteThis post reminds me just how great you are!! As a therapist, I know that it takes a lot for people to work through issues, let alone acknowledge and write about them! I appreciate your honest post about yourself! As a matter of fact, my post tomorrow will be about my insecurities. Hmmm...let me think about it overnight :) Thanks for the great post :)
Chickadee has forced me to let go of most of my insecurities. But I gotta confess that getting dolled up makes me feel a tad insecure. I'm getting better. But it's work.
ReplyDeleteWOW --- yup I agree. Reading Women Food & God now and having so MANY ah ha moments.. I think this may be the first book I read more than once! It's our innervoice that Geneen Roth calls "The Voice"
ReplyDeleteI am great... and I don't care who don't agree.. it's just me in here, in this only body I'll have and I can think what I want! Also .. in the book there is a part that says .. we should think about the people who recently died would give anything to be sitting where we are no matter the size of our thighs or butt! SO TRUE..
I have a number of areas where I could be more secure. One of the benefits I've found of aging is that looks is one area I'm becoming less insecure about. The older I get the more I realize that very few people fit into the "super model" category. We can't compare ourselves to the minority. In the end, it's our character that matters most anyway.
ReplyDeleteMost of what you listed causes me to be insecure. One big thing for me is if I'm the last person to find out about something...I hate being out of the loop at work/church/family/close friends and if I'm the last to be told I take it as an insult. Miss Corletta and I got into a huge fight over this and didn't speak for a year...true story. Glad that's over with!! I always say that if I get back to my old weight/size I'll feel confident again, but even when I WAS that size/weight I saw myself as big. While I'm gaining back confidence, it all begins with ignoring that mean voice in your head.
ReplyDeleteInsecurity is the strangest thing sometimes. It may be something so small too, but it plays such a huge part in the way we think.
ReplyDeleteI do have to say though that you hold yourself well.
Most of us would not have known that about you.
you do rock.